The Soulmate Strategy

A soul-searching LGBTQ memoir about one woman’s attempt to plan her way to happily ever after—only to realize that healing, self-discovery, and love happen in their own time.

Days after Corey’s breakup, a photo of her ex wrapped in the arms of another woman goes viral on Facebook. Confronted with this gleeful boast about “happily ever after,” Corey, a forty-something lesbian, decides that she can’t live in a state of perpetual loneliness, plagued with the burden of her own failure in finding happiness and love.

Armed with her meticulously crafted checklist, Corey embarks on a mission to heal, move on, and find “the one.” But no matter how many items she checks off her list or how faithfully she follows the sage wisdom of psychics, her breakup coach, and the legendary rapper Eminem, her hope in finding her one true love begins to fade away—until she’s suddenly torn between two.

Now, with her heart unexpectedly on the line, Corey must find out what she really wants—and where her true happiness lies.

About the author

Dr. Corey Seemiller is an award-winning professor in the Department of Leadership Studies in Education and Organizations at Wright State University. She has a long history of authoring and publishing books with prominent publishers, including Wiley/Jossey-Bass, Taylor & Francis/Routledge, Emerald Publishing, and SheWrites Press.

Her work has been featured in major news publications and media outlets such as NPR, The New York Times, Time Magazine, and Newsweek. She has been interviewed for podcasts as well as TV and radio shows worldwide and regularly engages in market research consulting for Fortune 10, 50, and 500 companies. Her highly popular TED Talk on Generation Z at TEDxDayton has garnered more than a quarter million views. And, having delivered more than 100 keynotes around the world, she is a sought-after professional speaker in educational, nonprofit, public, and corporate sectors.

Dr. Seemiller is also an accredited life coach in Law of Attraction and hold certifications in the Science of Happiness, Strengths-Based Education, Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, and Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion.

Despite her widespread professional success, in 2021, her relationship of seven years came to an abrupt end. Her efforts to analyze, organize, and micromanage her way from heartbreak to healing resulted in the writing of her memoir, The Soulmate Strategy, and the launch of her internationally ranked podcast, Rock That Relationship!, where she and her co-host share about their debacles and successes with breakups, healing processes, dating, and relationships. This multi-season podcast has several thousands of plays from a worldwide audience.

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My view:

Relatable story of resilience even if you're not going through a heartbreak. What to do when your only plan shatters. Well written, snappy and modern. Reading was like having a close friend we can trust. Although I love the chosen one tropes in literature, I am with the author, there is not THE ONE, raising interesting point of view to discuss. It's about hardwork not finding a random solution. Interesting read for those like me who are tired of perfectionism.